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Horticulturalish's avatar

It's none of my business, but your post is very compelling and (even though we aren't already friends) I want to give you an enormous hug (no cheek kisses though obvs).

1. Agree, fuck sourdough. Absolutely fuck sourdough. If anything, it is the worst bread.

2. Agree, fuck the too-clean, faux-country Cotswolds. And now Ellen DeGeneres has moved in it'll only get worse...

3. I'm not a lawyer anymore, but you may have a legal interest in your home (eg under the Trusts of Land and Appointment of Trustees Act 1996). Might be worth checking out. Happy to chat.

4. Agree, the only (mostly) competent / bearable boss I've ever had is myself...

5. Leaving Instagram was one of the best decisions I've ever made for my mental health. You might think you need it for work but you already have a nationwide profile. No one will forget your amazing work and talent in a hurry. Maybe start with disabling it for a bit to test it out...

6. Yes yes yes yes tax the rich, ffs. Second home tax is a brilliant idea. Arthur for PM.

7. Perhaps most importantly: cancel your plans. Seriously, cancel your plans. Plans can always be rescheduled or revived, but what you need right now is a break not a house full of people. Take this as your permission slip to prioritise YOUR needs. Fuck everyone else. It has taken me a long time and a lot of therapy to realise that I am a chronic people-pleaser, have a kind of weird, childish deference to the 'authority' of others, and so have always subjugated my own needs. No more. As I get older (36 now) I know myself better and I know what I want to do and don't. And I only do what I want. And it is glorious.

Have a wonderful time 'back home'. There's nothing wrong with feeling most at peace in the place you were born and raised, in the place where your people are, in the place where you were nurtured and sheltered before heading out into the brutal, soul-ugly world. I hope it provides some respite, helps you feel grounded again, and that time with your nearest and dearest helps sooth your soul x

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Julia Crossland's avatar

Could not love this more, thanks for sharing your rant, I find myself applauding sections of it while simultaneously wanting to make you a cup of tea and give you a hug xxx

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