It's none of my business, but your post is very compelling and (even though we aren't already friends) I want to give you an enormous hug (no cheek kisses though obvs).
1. Agree, fuck sourdough. Absolutely fuck sourdough. If anything, it is the worst bread.
2. Agree, fuck the too-clean, faux-country Cotswolds. And now Ellen DeGeneres has moved in it'll only get worse...
3. I'm not a lawyer anymore, but you may have a legal interest in your home (eg under the Trusts of Land and Appointment of Trustees Act 1996). Might be worth checking out. Happy to chat.
4. Agree, the only (mostly) competent / bearable boss I've ever had is myself...
5. Leaving Instagram was one of the best decisions I've ever made for my mental health. You might think you need it for work but you already have a nationwide profile. No one will forget your amazing work and talent in a hurry. Maybe start with disabling it for a bit to test it out...
6. Yes yes yes yes tax the rich, ffs. Second home tax is a brilliant idea. Arthur for PM.
7. Perhaps most importantly: cancel your plans. Seriously, cancel your plans. Plans can always be rescheduled or revived, but what you need right now is a break not a house full of people. Take this as your permission slip to prioritise YOUR needs. Fuck everyone else. It has taken me a long time and a lot of therapy to realise that I am a chronic people-pleaser, have a kind of weird, childish deference to the 'authority' of others, and so have always subjugated my own needs. No more. As I get older (36 now) I know myself better and I know what I want to do and don't. And I only do what I want. And it is glorious.
Have a wonderful time 'back home'. There's nothing wrong with feeling most at peace in the place you were born and raised, in the place where your people are, in the place where you were nurtured and sheltered before heading out into the brutal, soul-ugly world. I hope it provides some respite, helps you feel grounded again, and that time with your nearest and dearest helps sooth your soul x
Well done for getting to this stage in your life so early. I'm 72 and I don't stand any messing. I do what I want when I want . It helps that I don't have to compromise to ' fit in' with anyone else really . I live blissfully alone . I also feel that I'm a generous friend, kind to my family and animals and like company too 🤣
Could not love this more, thanks for sharing your rant, I find myself applauding sections of it while simultaneously wanting to make you a cup of tea and give you a hug xxx
A very honest post and so much to agree with. It breaks my heart that those who work in any service industry, in the Cotswolds, Lake District, Cornwall etc cannot afford to live there and have to live miles away and commute - in a country where buses and trains are often expensive or almost non existent. Something must be done to balance things out
Once attended a 1 day gardening course run at a famous sour dough school, (she had a lovely garden too). The day included lunch. When we arrived, bread was piled high for photos to be taken. We all admired the bread. We were not allowed to eat it. Not a crumb.
Totally agree about needing a chainsaw to cut sourdough🤣What I hate is the insincere air kisses either side of your head, a 6 second hug from or for someone you truly care about releases endorphins so the science says. So genuine hugs only, the rest is just awkward.
You’re definitely in the wrong part of the Cotswolds-I love Gloucestershire- but the proper country towns of Tetbury, Cirencester, Stroud , Dursley… not the chocolate box never lived in Chelsea tractor region !
Oh Arthur it’s your complete genuineness that is so unique and important in a rather pretentious world - we were in Charlbury area yesterday and called in at Daylesford - never seen so many Range Rover in my life - why so many monster sized cars ? And I actually commented to my husband about you and how you don’t drive - you have more sense than most and wiser than very many - keep going dear Arthur 😊
We love a good rant, Arthur! Hope you feel better for it and the house fulls that you have coming up are bearable. Maybe you can go for very long walks or bike rides with a thermos and a good book? Your workshop with Rachel sounds glorious - I’m sure it will be a great success 😀❤️🐓
Oh Arthur I enjoyed this rant so very very much!! More please! I always thought you were one of the picture perfect ones on Instagram but now I see there is a good supply of rage in you and I’d like to take you for a gin and tonic and share gardening horro stories. More of this please!!x
Ps I used to work for a French company and the kissing was OFF THE SCALE. I found it incredibly awkward, never knew which cheek to go for first, and I think it’s probably one of the reasons I ended up changing careers
Exactly what I needed this morning. Currently my life seems entirely awful and the thought of Christmas with my estranged family makes me want to flee. I generally dislike social media and am so sick of everyone’s toxic positivity. Rant away!
It's none of my business, but your post is very compelling and (even though we aren't already friends) I want to give you an enormous hug (no cheek kisses though obvs).
1. Agree, fuck sourdough. Absolutely fuck sourdough. If anything, it is the worst bread.
2. Agree, fuck the too-clean, faux-country Cotswolds. And now Ellen DeGeneres has moved in it'll only get worse...
3. I'm not a lawyer anymore, but you may have a legal interest in your home (eg under the Trusts of Land and Appointment of Trustees Act 1996). Might be worth checking out. Happy to chat.
4. Agree, the only (mostly) competent / bearable boss I've ever had is myself...
5. Leaving Instagram was one of the best decisions I've ever made for my mental health. You might think you need it for work but you already have a nationwide profile. No one will forget your amazing work and talent in a hurry. Maybe start with disabling it for a bit to test it out...
6. Yes yes yes yes tax the rich, ffs. Second home tax is a brilliant idea. Arthur for PM.
7. Perhaps most importantly: cancel your plans. Seriously, cancel your plans. Plans can always be rescheduled or revived, but what you need right now is a break not a house full of people. Take this as your permission slip to prioritise YOUR needs. Fuck everyone else. It has taken me a long time and a lot of therapy to realise that I am a chronic people-pleaser, have a kind of weird, childish deference to the 'authority' of others, and so have always subjugated my own needs. No more. As I get older (36 now) I know myself better and I know what I want to do and don't. And I only do what I want. And it is glorious.
Have a wonderful time 'back home'. There's nothing wrong with feeling most at peace in the place you were born and raised, in the place where your people are, in the place where you were nurtured and sheltered before heading out into the brutal, soul-ugly world. I hope it provides some respite, helps you feel grounded again, and that time with your nearest and dearest helps sooth your soul x
Well done for getting to this stage in your life so early. I'm 72 and I don't stand any messing. I do what I want when I want . It helps that I don't have to compromise to ' fit in' with anyone else really . I live blissfully alone . I also feel that I'm a generous friend, kind to my family and animals and like company too 🤣
Could not love this more, thanks for sharing your rant, I find myself applauding sections of it while simultaneously wanting to make you a cup of tea and give you a hug xxx
My step dad is very near you. It's a peculiar part of the world. But pretty. But, hmm.
I’d rather have this on a Tea Towel!!
😂❤️😂
A very honest post and so much to agree with. It breaks my heart that those who work in any service industry, in the Cotswolds, Lake District, Cornwall etc cannot afford to live there and have to live miles away and commute - in a country where buses and trains are often expensive or almost non existent. Something must be done to balance things out
A big hug without a kiss, I hate the presumed intimacy… your writing is so good and moody and descriptive. Please keep it coming. 😍
Once attended a 1 day gardening course run at a famous sour dough school, (she had a lovely garden too). The day included lunch. When we arrived, bread was piled high for photos to be taken. We all admired the bread. We were not allowed to eat it. Not a crumb.
If people ventured deep into the Lake District, the Cotswolds wouldn’t get mentioned again. Wild savage beauty and little stamps of prettiness.
Arthur , love love this. Take care me duck.
Totally agree about needing a chainsaw to cut sourdough🤣What I hate is the insincere air kisses either side of your head, a 6 second hug from or for someone you truly care about releases endorphins so the science says. So genuine hugs only, the rest is just awkward.
You’re definitely in the wrong part of the Cotswolds-I love Gloucestershire- but the proper country towns of Tetbury, Cirencester, Stroud , Dursley… not the chocolate box never lived in Chelsea tractor region !
Oh Arthur it’s your complete genuineness that is so unique and important in a rather pretentious world - we were in Charlbury area yesterday and called in at Daylesford - never seen so many Range Rover in my life - why so many monster sized cars ? And I actually commented to my husband about you and how you don’t drive - you have more sense than most and wiser than very many - keep going dear Arthur 😊
We love a good rant, Arthur! Hope you feel better for it and the house fulls that you have coming up are bearable. Maybe you can go for very long walks or bike rides with a thermos and a good book? Your workshop with Rachel sounds glorious - I’m sure it will be a great success 😀❤️🐓
It’s very good to vent and rant … and I’m with re Instagram. Can’t bear the fakeness…
Oh Arthur I enjoyed this rant so very very much!! More please! I always thought you were one of the picture perfect ones on Instagram but now I see there is a good supply of rage in you and I’d like to take you for a gin and tonic and share gardening horro stories. More of this please!!x
Ps I used to work for a French company and the kissing was OFF THE SCALE. I found it incredibly awkward, never knew which cheek to go for first, and I think it’s probably one of the reasons I ended up changing careers
Exactly what I needed this morning. Currently my life seems entirely awful and the thought of Christmas with my estranged family makes me want to flee. I generally dislike social media and am so sick of everyone’s toxic positivity. Rant away!